i will tell you the truth, here in East AFRICA, especially, Uganda where i come from, it will be rarely for one to find a cemetery because honestly we bury our relatives from where our origins are or begin which means that those places are usually far from the cities where we normally leave and we only go there to bury and visit:
the cemeteries you will find are more likely to be for citizens who are foreign but live in the country.
As for All saints day and soul’s day we are not that kin that much but people celebrate it, but not the way you do.
if there is something people usually want to celebrate it would not be the dead, it is so tough a subject that they are at times forgotten and every person deals with it differently, in fact you guys are doing it much better than i would.
The thought is dead people are never bothered unless you are cleaning, renovating the grave sites

I know exactly what you mean about cemeteries – not my favourite place. Over here in Austria they are mainly Catholic as well and also celebrate All Saints and All Souls day by visiting the graves of relatives. Interestingly, there are not so many graveyards here as Uhrenheim(s) (Urn homes) where the ashes of the departed are enshrined, rather than the bones. Takes up less space and serves the same purpose – a memorial to lost loved ones. I find it a bit less unfriendly to visit.