Friday evening one couple Elena and I am friends with invited us to their house for dinner. I felt bad we never got to socialize this way in the two years I have lived here and known them. I realize a lot of the problem is his wife was in Germany a few times for months at a time assisting a friend with her business.
I have tried to say goodbye to as many as I could. One of the groups I had trouble seeing for the last time and saying goodbye was to the kids at Agdao Market on Sunday morning. They all had tears in their eyes as I did when we talked about me leaving.
Then in true Filipino tradition, they wanted me to take photos of them and us together. As I looked in their cute little faces, I wished I were rich and could adopt and bring them all to America and give them a better future. These kids, who I have discussed in the past, are from poorer families. They go to public school during the week and on weekends work at the market selling calamansi or carrying the bags of shoppers to earn a few pesos at a time. They use this money to cover the cost of the meals during the week and help with some expenses of their families.
This just made me think of my childhood where I would cut lawns or shovel snow for neighbors to earn some money. This money was for my own use. These kids work to assist their families. Even though they joke and play with each other and vendors at the market, they do not have the time to just be kids.
We then went to the mall and I said goodbye to everyone I had known and touched my life. Over the two years, I have gotten to know the guards and many employees at the mall. I thanked them for their kindnesses and friendships.
In some cases, these friendships with Filipinos was better than some of the Expats I have gotten to know here in many ways. Many of these foreigners have their own agendas. Then need to feel important and control long. I know it is the same in your home country as had seen in America but there you get to turn and find another American. Here you do not have as many to choose from. Many here have lifestyles I just do not enjoy. Some that I played bridge with upset me so much last Wednesday, I just got up and told them what I think and walked off. They are more experienced then I and will always point out my mistakes. The problem is they do not stop. Since I enjoyed the game, I would just let them talk. Well this time I got up and said I am leaving in a few days and do not need any more of their insults.
Then on Sunday night some of Elena’s friends with their Expat husbands got together with us at a local restaurant for a going away get-together for me. The funny part is I hardly socialized with these men in the two years and now they want to get together. Maybe it is just an excuse to have dinner out.
One of the upsetting this is this; shipping boxes to the Philippines is reasonably cheap and shipping from here to America is expensive. Thinking I would live here for the rest of my life I shipped 17 boxes. I brought good cookware, corning ware and any other things. Now going back I will have to leave most behind.
Well, from this site, you have learned about me, my life, my experiences and my observations. In the future I will journal how my life will change being back in the States, and my survival there. I will write about the filing for Elena’s spousal visa and then getting her to America. I will continue with the cultural differences Elena will experience and how we deal with it. Then with the help of Rob and others that I hope will contribute, I will be able to keep this site going. We will see. I thank you, all my readers for visiting and enjoying my site.